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Finding Personal Growth within your household’s communication can seem tricky to achieve, but with persistence, and the right tips, those bonds can easily be mended. The problem is that today’s “modern” family is consumed by a busy lifestyle. Not even the children, nowadays seem to have the time for family bonding.

You can regain your Family

There are many different ways to get the family together. Listed below are 6 tips to get the family together having fun, making memories, and gaining personal growth in household communication:

Home: Top Priority

It’s important to realize just how important your family is to you. You have to keep your immediate family on your top priority list. These people should most definitely include your spouse, children, and extended family before your job, and most importantly, before your play time. Many years of countless university studies show that 60% of divorce rates in America are caused because either spouse didn’t make their family a top priority in their life. Let those that you love know that you care enough about them to put their needs and emotions above all others. This can certainly help the bonding begin.

The the time to talk

You must take time out to speak to one another. A great way to start sharing and communicating is by telling one another good morning before sitting down at the kitchen table. Communication can only begin when you talk to each other. The more we speak to a certain individual, the more we become comfortable with them. Parents particularly need to initiate the conversation starters. Once your children realize that you are not afraid to find out what they like, and truly listen to them, they will begin to share with you as well.

Sit Down & Eat Together

It’s a good idea to sit down at the dinner table for your family meals. Breakfast and dinner are said to be the most productive time for family chit-chat and bonding. This would be a great way to start to develop a connection and build growth within your family circle.

Fit Family Time into your Schedule

Some people find themselves working more hours at work to take care of the responsibilities at home. Just surviving a recession doesn’t make it any easier to sacrifice work time for anything else. However, the trick isn’t in placing your family before your job consistently, but to think about your family as you decide your own work and personal schedule. Your family should be penciled in at all times.

Fit Romance into your Schedule-

It’s really good to remember that your marriage or dating life revolves around showing emotion as well as, physical expressions of that love. When you are working constantly, and neglecting to give your mate the attention they deserve, it can cause major problems, one of which being adultery. When a person has an issue, and you aren’t there to speak to them, they find it easier to just let the problem get worse. If a woman spent too much time at work, and not enough time with her husband, she would feel more comfortable telling him how she felt if they communicated on a daily basis. The root of a family’s household with children is the romance within the marriage.

Play Games Together

Another great idea is to play games with your family. Board games are a fantastic way to start breaking the barrier. Puzzles games can also assist in building bonding moments with family. The thing is, when we play games, especially strategic games, we have to work together. The trick is teaching the family to learn how to rely on one another in order to build communication and love within your family.

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Have you noticed how some people, maybe even you, try really hard to change, but somehow, it just never “sticks”? They seem to be doing the right things, but something is just not going “click”. I spent many years struggling with personal change, went through abusive relationships, divorce and plenty of financial issues. Since then I have turned my life around using what I’ll tell you about here.

In this article, may I share some of my new ideas about the incredible power of the subconscious mind and how it profoundly influences us and our results. You will be given some very amazing facts and information that will make the Natural Laws of the Mind much more apparent.

The direction I’ve taken since the publication of the “The Power of Simplicity” has been amazing, but you know how things increase in momentum? I have found that’s what’s been going on for me. The deeper levels of understanding I’ve uncovered since I now find I understand at a much deeper level not only what works, but why we behave as we do and how to how make deeper levels of change faster.

Well, as I investigated what others were saying, the sub-conscious mind looks like being the key to it all, what became clear was that there parts that did not fit from what I read. The conscious mind is really not a positive contributor in our lives except in one area, it has the potential to re-write the subconscious. The issue is it permits way too much junk to get into our subconscious, because we do not know any better, or about it’s true role in our lives.

May I give you an example? If you are fond of seeing horror flicks or if you come from a culture where spirits and demons are accepted facts, like in many parts in Latin America, do you think you might start believing certain things are happening in your life? May I give you an example of exactly this. A woman came to one of my seminars and told everyone that she had been possessed for years, she said had even writhed and hissed in church and had only “come to her self” after the priest cured her. She had everyone in the class sure “something was going on”. But after I asked her more questions and got her answers, it slowly came out she had terrible relationships with her in-laws and very a emotionally crushing relationship with her husband, in fact everyone had walked all over her for decades. She had kept silent and all that internal pressure and very low self-esteem built up inside like a time bomb until it exploded. She was really looking for attention, at some point her church must have talked about possession, or someone had in her life and so she had this deep belief about certain behaviors and being possessed so she acted it out since it solved a deep need for attention. There were no winged creatures hovering in the rafters. I am not saying her issues are just because of her emotional trauma, but it certainly played a large part in her experience. Each of us is unique and under pressure we will react in unique ways. How would you have reacted based on your opinions about mistreatment of women? So her opinions about her experiences and her deep, pressing need for attention turned into a pretty spectacular behavior that got her what she needed: some attention from her family. In what areas of your life are your beliefs and attitudes producing certain results, in your relationships, your money or even your health?

You see, the sub-conscious is where all our potential lies amidst all our attitudes and here is the secret even those we hold about others. But if we nourish a set of beliefs that hinder us, our inner beauty has little chance to show up. So what does all this have to do with the conscious mind? Well, one of its most important jobs is to filter what goes into our sub-conscious. Just think of the “mental diet” you have: what do you feed your mind with? What upsets you and why? So in the end, our subconscious adopts the most common themes in our conscious thoughts as its belief system. Write a list of your common phrases or opinions. If you’re not sure what you say often, ask your friends or family what you are like, you might get some surprising answers. Just remember, that is what they see- through their own opinions, but knowing that may allow you to see things about yourself you are currently blind to. Your truth is true for you, theirs is true for them. This is not a cause for self-criticism or blame of yourself or others.

Who would have thought the mind worked that way? I didn’t either until I took action and really started investigating how to improve my life. Knowing something thing in your brain is not really knowing, that only happens when you see results based on your actions.

What’s the secret? Well, the subconscious does not understand negatives, nor does not have a sense of humor and it is imprinted with highly emotionalized thought. So it is when you have an idea plus strong emotion that you imprint most strongly on the subconscious. So when we experience an upset in our lives, we often have strong feelings plus thoughts, this creates a belief around the event, so future events will be “colored” with the same belief, even if the future event is a little bit like the earlier one. The same is also true of consistent low grade emotional thought, for example: getting angry with others frequently and the list could continue forever.

For another example, let’s say you watch a horror video, some part of that “junk” will leak into your sub-conscious. Many years ago, when the movie “Jaws” came out (it was about this Great White Shark attacking a village in New England) my two older brothers went to watch it. I was too little at the time to watch it with them. We lived in Mexico which has lots of beautiful beaches. Which we used to go to often. For more than six months after watching the movie, both of my brothers were much more reluctant to go into the sea. Where before the movie, they had leaped in with abandon at the first chance.

Now here’s the interesting bit, it also affected me too, even though they did not talk about the movie much, it was their reactions when we went to the beach around a month later that really hit me, they did not want to get in to the sea and talked about the movie as the reason, because they were scared, I became scared. About one month later! This happened for nearly a year after the movie every time we went to the beach. For years (and I mean years) I also used to check out the sea before I went in, looking for sharks. Was it rational? No, because Great White Sharks do not live off the beaches I used to go to as a boy and I knew this because I asked. It is a great example of how our conscious mind fails to stop crud going into our sub-conscious and how we are influenced by the thoughts of others too which affect us emotionally. These then become beliefs that we later need to remove with hard work. So it is essential to teach the conscious mind to prevent crud and to be able to clear the stuff already stored there.

Once its in there it can be pretty hard to weed out. So what if you have beliefs around money, relationships or health for example? Would that not impact you just a little? What choices would you make? What actions would do because of your beliefs?

These types of beliefs have on occasion been called transparent beliefs because we cannot “see” them. We suppose the world is a particular way and we’re sure of it, sometimes even when external facts prove us wrong. Have you ever had the experience where you are hearing a sound constantly, and eventually you “tune” the sound out, and later someone says “what’s that noise?” and only then do you become aware of it again? This is because the brain is processing billions of pieces of data from the our senses all the time, and the conscious mind can only be aware of a much smaller number of inputs, so it “discards” about 95% or more of what we sense. What does it use to “filter” this data? Your beliefs, opinions and past experiences that justify those opinions. A great deal of it is filtered by the limbic system or your reptile brain, this is the bit we inherited from our dinosaur many times over great-grandparents. This is the part that deals with pure survival, so it does not care about anything (not being happy or rich or healthy even) it just simply cares about “are there any things about to eat right now that I am aware of?”. So we tune out things are not conditioned to seeing. So we give layers and layers of meaning to things around us that have nothing to do with the things themselves. For example, have you ever been looking for something, say your keys, and you are sure you left them in the bedroom say, but you check but do not see them because they are not exactly where you saw them in your mind and then it just “appears” when you look openly? “I swear I just looked and it was not there!”. Has that or something like it ever happened to you?

Let’s get back to the sharks. Sharks, even Great White sharks do not naturally attack man, there always other pressures that cause them to behave in extraordinary ways. For example, in Brazil, there are loads of sharks swimming off the beaches and there had been virtually no shark attacks for years. Then all of a sudden, shark attacks became common. It started to affect the tourism industry badly, which provided 60% of the employment in some areas. After years of investigation, they found that two things affected the sharks’ behavior, the currents had changed slightly because of the construction of a nearby port and so some sharks were getting “trapped” in the area where the swimmers were. The investigators thought they had solved the problem, because we’ve all heard that sharks will attack people if they are trapped by waves near the beach. In fact, this is not true, because the port had been in operation for several years already and the sharks had not attacked anyone during that time. What the researchers were really doing was removing their own preconceptions one layer at a time about shark behavior. In the end the cause was found to be a meat factory that had started up many miles upstream in a river that washed out to the sea. The factory had flouted local regulations and dumped their waste, especially the blood into the river. So that was the real cause: the blood in the water (which sharks can smell miles away) plus lots of wriggling bodies looked like food to the sharks, they were responding to their patterns too. Once they closed down the meat factory, the attacks stopped. So all our beliefs about sharks viciously attacking people at the first opportunity is certainly up for question at least. How many other beliefs do you hold as “true” that affect your choices and actions?

So how do you remove limiting beliefs? Many of the processes in The Power of Simplicity, especially the Affirmations work very well with deep issues. However, I am constantly researching new aspects and information about using our mind to the very best we can and this information is my book and also practical and easy to follow tips come out in my newsletter. If you really want to make deep changes, especially in areas that you have experienced resistance in, or difficulties in making lasting change, consider signing up for the newsletter or buying the book or both. If you do, I’ll be very happy to give you a free e-Book which is all about the subconscious and how you can really transform your life.

Whatever you do, the subconscious responds best to consistent practice of affirmations. This is the key, also remember, you do not need to believe them! Most people think you do, but as long as you repeat them with high energy and as though they have already happened they will take root in your subconsicous mind.